We've been having troubles around the house. We live right across the street from the Olive Drive Church.
My daughter thinks our rules are too strict. But every time we give her more 'rope', she seems to put herself in danger or take it to the next level requiring further disciplinary actions.
 Truthfully it has been insane around our home because we've run just about out of ideas for how to get the message across. The message being Follow The Simple Rules. It seems as if she can never simply go by the rules and get un-grounded before she does something continuing it longer.
She was grounded a week ago Sunday for sneaking out of the house and staying gone all night. Just before she arrived Monday morning just in time for school, we discovered her missing. Sunday she became unruly and argumentative and Monday she decided to not come home on time after school and upon arguing about that my husband decided we ought to take away the XTra Bedroom from her until an hour before bedtime, 10:00 PM. (We took away her big bedroom and moved her to the small guest room for the first offense)
 Then, after being grounded a week and one day she skips school and does not return home. We call the Sheriff and report her as a runaway, call or go to any of her friends homes ... then continue to worry.
It is hard to not blame myself. I should have spent more time with her. I ought to have made the punishment different.
We moved around a bit after my divorce in 2000 then moved here from Sacramento which was actually 2+ moves because we had to sell and buy a home in that order which took time.
This was due to a job transfer, not really our fault but still I want to blame myself for this as well.
I can not get my mind off of the bad visions of what might be happening to her as I write this and only hope if you, or anyone you know has seen my daughter call the Kern County Sheriff.